Social Media and Divorce
This week has been a fairly interesting week, much going on in the news regarding family court cases. Steve Nash might have to pay child support, the Dwayne Wade divorce is over, and it turns out that women can now be fired in Michigan for being too attractive. There were certainly many articles and blogs that I read over the last week that really gave me much to think about.
Just like the majority of people in 2013, I was scouring the internet on my (what feels like a million) social media sites and started to see so many different things about relationships, marriage, divorce, friendships and other “drama” that I soon came to realize that whether we like it or not social media platforms are a huge part of our lives and are only going to get more involved and more intricate.
A recent article I read by Mushkatel, Robbins & Becker, P.L.L.C. on July 31, 2013 was discussing how social media affects divorce. I began looking at all of my friends and followers on my sites and noticed that certain things were going on adding to the drama of divorce. There were people posting pictures of themselves and girlfriends, pictures of boyfriends with children not of their own, status updates that were bad mouthing the other parent, and “checking in” at places that could affect their divorce.
I began to realize that asking or telling someone to stop using social media throughout a divorce is very difficult to do. But one thing that I tell people is to leave the divorce out of the social media. For example, don’t “check in” on Foursquare and Facebook, don’t update your status in a way that offends or relates to the divorce, and don’t share pictures that might be damaging in some way to the case. One of the best “work-arounds” for divorces and social media sites is to nicely remove any exes and family of exes that you no longer get along with.
“Un-friending” and removing these people will not affect your social status, but it will help in removing possible threats of damage in a legal situation.
There still seems to be somewhat of a stigma around removing people from such sites, but if you are getting divorced from them you are more than likely no longer interested in their life as much as you once were. So, there shouldn’t be an issue with removing them. In some cases, yes, people just realize that friendship is better and marriage was a little too much or too soon and continue to follow lives, which is good.
Just be cautious if you are involved in a divorce case and access your social media regularly. Think about what you would expect from your ex and act on that. Don’t post something that YOU would find offensive or hurtful.
Quick question for you all,
Do you think it is appropriate to “remove” or “unfriend” an ex?